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....being an excellent listener and keen observer. He provides me with a model of how to hold space for colleagues and friends and also an opportunity to practice listening to both myself and others while doing my own work, collaborating with colleagues, or spending time with family and friends. 

I was reticent at first to reach out to Henrik because of a myriad of excuses that I created: not wanting to mix professional and personal issues, take too much of Henrik’s time, or simply didn’t know how to prepare or what to expect when working on issues of subconscious wiring.

My first session with Henrik was an hour that we tucked in right before the holidays. I met with him online, in the upstairs of a friend’s house, in between gardening and getting ready for Christmas.  

All I needed was a quiet space, 1 hour, something to write on, a glass of water, my computer, and the courage to try something new.  

Other than my mother, Henrik is about the kindest, most gentle soul I’ve ever met, so I logically knew my courage was unnecessary, but as we all know the subconscious does funny things to “keep us safe” and protect our ego. 

In our first session, Henrik asked me to think of a memory or experience that was causing me pain or challenging me to experience joy. I thought of a memory that had happened years ago and although I logically knew that it was a silly, moment in time, it had scarred me, caused me pain, and resurfaced in other ways at other times. I had prayed about it, tried to let it go, forgiven the person who caused me pain, and yet the power of the memory still weighed on me and hurt.  

I didn’t have to tell Henrik it out loud, which was comforting because I knew how silly this memory must be and was embarrassed that something so small I had allowed to fester over time or even bother me at all.  

With Henrik’s help, I was able to reframe what I wanted the statement to be in my mind about this memory. He invited me to imagine and write down the reality that I instead wanted to create.  Nothing complicated, just the way that I wanted to hold this reality. 

Then after simple exercises of crossing one leg over the other and one hand over the other, all which could be done in the quiet of my room, I spent time with my arms folded imagining the event and holding the new reality, exploring all the possibilities and dimensions of this new reality until it felt real, safe, present.  

We took a moment to bring the two hemispheres of my subconscious together through a similar simple exercise and then established the new memory by focusing on the small space created when holding my fingertips together.  

Then I reclaimed my new reality.

It was that simple, by letting go of my fear and old experience and rewiring a new set of beliefs that I was in control of creating the weight of the old memory lifted.  

Just like any new skill or way of processing, there is the need to practice and revisit one’s new mental pattern, but the anger, frustration, and emotive baggage of the old memory had vanished.  

In addition to listening and guiding one through healing one’s own subconscious wounds, Henrik is astute and effective in guiding others to unpack what other beliefs are circled around each limiting idea or experience.  He would ask what was beneath this memory or what ideas developed while I was exploring my new reality.  What was sticky or caused me friction. Henrik listened and had the uncanny ability to zero in on the key ideas that repeated and those would be the next thought or belief that we would focus on editing. 

Like any new habit, creating new pathways or repairing scars requires a little practice, but the mental homework was easy and something that I found myself doing randomly when triggered by a memory or an experience. Now that I had worked with Henrik, revisiting this memory and practicing the new focus wasn’t hard or uncomfortable, but now felt empowering and brought about a sense of peace. 

Its easy to schedule time to work with Henrik. He’s flexible even during the day if schedules shift and working with him becomes the highlight of a week.  

The growth and personal journey that I am beginning with Henrik as a resource to become the most healthy and whole person that I can be, is a very beneficial gift. 

Thanks Henrik for teaching me how to listen to others, but most importantly for modeling how to listen to myself and for giving me the space and time to, without any judgement, but always joy, refocusing my energy towards what I want to become and letting go of the complications and ideas holding me back. 

I wish everyone had the chance to work with Henrik. His patient guidance to heal oneself is rare but uncomplicated medicine that we could all use more of in life.
 

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